Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Socially Acceptable Survivor

At an event tonight I saw a woman wearing a "race for the cure" t-shirt with "survivor" proudly displayed along the side. It struck me as odd that some survivor-ship is socially acceptable and other is not. For example if I wore a "domestic violence and sexual assault survivor" shirt in pretty pink or pale blue how would that be received? I imagine it would make people uncomfortable. Surviving violence is no less heroic than surviving cancer yet somehow carries more shame.

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Maybe the commercialization of pink ribbons for breast cancer makes it socially acceptable, maybe because the fight of cancer is against nature not man so "united we stand". I would love for someone working in the DV/SA field to commercialize a blue cracked egg that lives in the social consciousness to symbolize the incredible courage and strength it takes to reclaim power after violence.

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Admittedly I thankfully have not had to face the battle of breast cancer in my body so I don't know how they compare for sure... I lost one of my dearest friends, the woman who introduced me to Yoga, Patricia Arters, to breast cancer in my mid-20's, the quick decay from vibrant, feisty, strong woman to tired bones was humbling. Her passing precipitated huge changes in my life, it was an inspiration to live more fully. This invitation required divorcing her son. Life has a funny way of opening.

In the midst of my current opening I stand for equal survivor-ship rights. Will you stand with me?


image credits: the eggs are percussion instruments http://b2b.coastmusic.com/ the shirt race for the cure

2 comments:

  1. I will! I am sure there is a way to make it "socially acceptable" to be a survivor. You may be only one person, but I am sure your example helps more people than you think. I think in some ways it may be even harder to survive something like that and come out strong because there is a whole different depth of betrayal and emotional conflict that you have to work through.

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  2. Thank you Catrina, it means a lot to me.

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